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The roads to achievements at work may not be smooth and trouble-free as always, things such as conflicts, arguments, frustrations, worries do happen at work place. Knowing how to tackle in each emotional situation assists you to become a resilient professional.
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“ Job vs Career : A job is something you do simply to earn money; a career is a series of connected employment opportunities. A job has minimal impact on your future work life, while a career provides experience and learning to fuel your future. ”


“ When choosing new job, consider 1) Position 2) Environment 3) Work-life balance 4) People culture, ethnicity 5) Direct manager's competence ”


“ Every career should provide you one of yearly knowledge growth, depth or bredth of experience growth, work-life balance whichever aligns with your personal goal. ”


“ Choose a profession that energizes you and make you more passionate rather than something that drains you every morning you wake up. ”


“ Make a detailed record of job histories, last-drawn salaries, joined date, last service dates as they will be required at some point in life. ”


“ No matter what job you have in life, your success will be determined 5% by your academic degrees, 15% by your professional experiences, and 80% by your communication skills. ”


“ There are always things that you don't like doing at work even if you select career based on your interest. However, those things must be something beneficial to team or company. ”


“ You can do technical stuff as long as you wish but you need to evolve into other lines such as new different technical area and managerial stuffs because in each technical area, you'll never end up exploring. ”


“ Learn from everyone's good altitude, quality, habits, skills at work including managers, and co-workers you meet throughout your career ”


“ Watch out for Big NOs in interviews -


“ There are always something you don't like about job. Find out if you can tune them or drive them to the ways that allow you to learn new things which are beneficial to you in long terms. ”


“ Always be in good terms with your current manager as their feedbacks will be solicited by your future employees. At the the end of the day, what matters most to next employers is how you deal with your current employer. ”



“ Do I like my current job in this company? ”


“ Do I like my department or organization? ”


“ Do I need to work in this company financially to survive? ”


“ Do I need to work in this company for experience or career development? ”


“ Do I need to work in this company for a while before jumping to next bigger move? ”


“ Where am I in the happiness scale? ”


“ Where am I in the stress scale? ”


“ Where is my boss in the scale of difficulty? ”


“ Where is my company in the scale of office politics? ”


“ Am I willling to change my behaviors to adapt to my boss and organization culture/politics? ”


“ Am I willing to try to understand my management and their direction? ”


“ Am I currently the victim of all shits? ”


“ Am I motivated to come to work? ”


“ Do I feel like I report to the prison every Sunday's evening? ”


“ Does every thought of your boss make you furious? ”



“ Write down ideal working conditions (list only things you must not be willing to compromise / level of priorities), types of companies you're willing to work for. Update and amend those lists as and when you grow into the career period. ”


“ Apply those that matches with one of your expectations. Don't work for money. In order to generate excellence, you need support from working conditions (environment, culture, transport, type of manager) ”


“ Always think in terms of employers - what are they actually looking for? ”


“ How important is your technical skill / soft skill to the job you're applying for? Analyze it in details. Maybe you have an average skill in area A which the employer is strongly using it as the main criteria ”


“ Identify how you are positioning yourself in the candidate market place. If there is a misalignment/confusion that may cause to recruiters/employers, you need to sort it out. ”


“ Don't take it personally if you get rejected. Be honest what you can and what you cannot do. Don't be in a different persona in the interview ”


“ Your CV must be accurate and complete, reveals honest impression of yourself. Includes how employers can verify the authentication of your certifications. Never copy anything from another person's or the Internet's word templates. ”


“ Tailor your CV and cover letter according to the job you're applying for. ”


“ If you found things are not right in interview process (such as arrogant managers putting down you), do not continue further. Just politely decline. ”


“ The most important is to work with the right people, right work environment, and culture because you'll be spending large amount of your life time 5 days per week. ”


“ One important thing to work with recruiter, if you get employed through a recruiter, as the employer has to pay commission fee to the recruiter, you may be getting lower pay. ”


“ Separate the amount of questions in email/in-phone/in-person interview rounds. ”


“ Looking for job is an information gathering process at the start - you present yourself to potential employers who will then ask you questions. ”


“ Employers must be able to trust you. Maintain the highest level of integrity, honesty and trust. ”


Interviews To Employer

“ Question to employer: what kind of top qualities are you looking for? | You can guess if you have those criteria to which level. ”


“ Question to employer: what does day-to-day looks like? | You can guess if your skills are put to use. ”


“ Question to employer: what does success/perfect day/week/year look like? | You can guess if they're hard working on their KPIs. ”


“ Question to employer: what do you measure KPI of candidate? | You can guess if you can meet such KPI ”


“ Question to employer: how do you solve candidate performance issue? | You can guess their level of leadership maturity. ”


“ Question to employer: are there any protocols for asking for help? |. In some new organisations, there may be no one you can get help from ”


“ Question to employer: where do you want your department to go in next 2/5 years? ”


“ Question to employer: let's say If I am selected to hire, what will be my biggest challenges I'll be overcoming? ”


Self-characters - Do's

“ Focus on what matters and are happy to take criticism for de-prioritizing the rest. ”


“ Stop complaining ”


“ Practice what you preach. In other words, lead by example. ”


“ Propose/create solutions ”


“ Teach others ”


“ Show up on time ”


“ Beat deadlines ”


“ Ask better questions ”


“ Listen carefully ”


“ Share credit ”


“ Write thank you notes ”


“ Take good notes ”


“ Deliver quality work ”


“ Be humble ”


“ Measure results ”


“ Always check with your boss before doing something ”


“ Respect others ”


“ Be compassionate. ”


“ Avoid from 12 time wasters ”


“ Admit you're wrong if you do it wrong. ”


“ Be quick to show appreciation ”


“ Ask team's viewpoint when relevant and necessary ”


“ Give meaningful feedback to team ”


“ The best way to compete with your competitors ”


“ Be honest with everyone ”


“ Be straight and clear ”


“ Be authentic - be yourself ”


“ Be your word - be someone can trust ”


“ Be genuine ”


“ Do ground work for immediate low level if no big high level job is flooding ”


“ Use narrative presentation (steve jobs/google ceo) than text/graphics heavy style ”


“ Make all stakeholders feel good -


“ Do your best for best of company and broader people below and top. Then stay far from each person outsides of work hours as it is always impossible to sastify single person ”


“ Honor your word. When you say you’re going to do something, do it. No exceptions. ”


“ Say sorry. When you make a mistake, admit it, openly and honestly. ”


“ Never give up. Cling to the courage of your convictions, even (especially) when things go bad. ”


“ Be real. Drop the chest-thumping bravado and ego-driven head games. ”


“ Develop skills needed to advance, such as coaching and mentoring, giving feedback, thinking strategically, negotiating, and managing up. ”


“ Stay motivated through the added power and influence you have in the organization, and find achievement in the development and successes of your staff.  ”


“ Use the time to get more exposure, build relationships and win fans within the organization.  ”


“ Able to fully communicate my thoughts ”


“ Able to use abstract judgement words ”


“ Understand the context ”


“ Rule your feelings else they shall rule you ”


“ Do firm handshake each time ”


“ Maintain personal space ”


“ Avoid general topics like health, finance, family issue discussion ”


“ Call/address someone name ”


“ Live by my words ”


“ Habit 1: Be Proactive. ... Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind. ... Habit 3: Put First Things First. ... Habit 4: Think Win/Win. ... Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. ... Habit 6: Synergize. ”


“ Enforce, stick to, abide by ethics ”


“ Be effective listener ”


“ Leaders must accurately time praise and be careful to avoid extravagant or excessive praise lest it become worthless. ”


“ An ounce of personalized extra effort is worth a pound of persuasion ”


“ Goal of communication is to foster understanding ”


“ Admit if you make mistake. Be upfront and quick with your correction. ”


“ Stop procrastination and complaints. Take action. ”


“ Acquire Dr. Wagners 7 survival skills -


“ Set priorities of focus on Company > Team > Self ”


“ Be thoughtful and never act rashly. ”


“ Be thoughtful before you say or decide things. ”


“ Trust and integrity is entry ticket to leadership effectiveness ”


“ Understand your team and use that knowledge to build high-performing team and superior working relationships ”


Self-characters - Don'ts

“ Don't Bypass your boss ”


“ Don't gossip ”


“ Don't joke about work stuffs. ”


“ Don't keep pushing boss to get sponspor/sources ”


“ Don't Feel emotional and angry at any comments of bosses/co-workers ”


“ Don't say things in sarcastic negative ways. Sarcastic comments are no value. ”


“ Don't lie ”


“ Don't over-promise ”


“ Don't complain ”


“ Don't judget ”


“ Don't make excuses ”


“ Don't be stubborn ”


“ Don't take shortcuts in reaching decisions ”


“ Don't treat assumptions as FACTs ”


“ Don't spread negative energy. ”


“ Don't talk only about yourself. Listen first. Seek first to understand. ”


“ Don't do the easy thing by doing everything. ”


“ Don't worry about covering your bases or asses. ”


“ Don't require permission to act. ”


“ Don't pummel yourself with negative self-talk. ”


“ Don't feel the need to be perfect and beat yourself up when you fall short of perfection. ”


“ Don't be defensive. ”


“ Don't feel you are in competition with others. ”


“ Don't criticize ”


“ Don't complain ”


“ Don't condone. ”


Career Progress

“ To have great career, one needs to have happy mind. To have happy mind, one needs to balance two sides of life ”


“ The path ahead is more important than the past success. ”


“ Keep succeeding and drawing inspiration from your past successes. ”


“ Mindful of other's achievements affecting you - It is a state of mind wherein others’ achievements become a burden in our life. Even the most positive people stop being happy about others’ progress and feel that they are being victimized ”


“ Step back and introspect. ”


“ Rediscover the moments that matter ”


“ Stay on course, understand yourself, be decisive ”


“ Never make Full Stop goals in career planning ”


“ Take pride of satisfaction in internal self not in monetary sense but in things such as making a difference, growing people, learning new things ”


“ Don't allow work life to steal your personal life ”


“ Many times future may look opaque, just enjoy the journey with no full stop. ”


“ Never settle into your comfort zone ”


“ Never think you're indispensable to the company ”


“ Never think you know everything and everyone should conform to your expectation ”


“ Look for challenges even in mundane jobs. ”


“ Retain your unique strength. ”


“ When it comes to careers, we have two choices: configure our life around our own uniqueness or try and copy someone else’s life and someone else’s uniqueness. We are what we chose or didn’t. ”


“ Don't fear the unknown. ”


Negative Workplace Emotions

“ Frustration usually occurs when you feel stuck or trapped, or unable to move forward in some way. ”


“ Worry can easily get out of control, if you allow it, and this can impact not only your mental health, but also your productivity, and your willingness to take risks at work. ”


“ Out-of-control anger is the most destructive emotion that people experience in the workplace. ”


“ If you have trouble managing your temper at work, then learning to control it is one of the best things you can do if you want to keep your job. ”


“ We've probably all had to work with someone we don't like. But it's important to be professional, no matter what. ”


“ Dealing with disappointment or unhappiness at work impacts your productivity. ”


“ If you've just suffered a major disappointment, your energy will probably be low, you might be afraid to take another risk, and all of that may hold you back from achieving. ”


“ We all have to deal with negative emotions at work sometimes, and learning how to cope with these feelings is now more important than ever. After all, negative emotions can spread, and no one wants to be around a person who adds negativity to a group. ”


“ Know what causes your negative emotions, and which types of feelings you face most often. When those emotions begin to appear, immediately start your strategy to interrupt the cycle. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to pull yourself away from ne ”


Strategies - Frustration/irritation

“ Thinking about a positive aspect of your situation often makes you look at things in a different way. This small change in your thinking can improve your mood. People are probably not doing it deliberately to annoy you. ”


“ Stop and evaluate – One of the best things you can do is mentally stop yourself, and look at the situation. Ask yourself why you feel frustrated. Write it down, and be specific. Then think of one positive thing about your current situation. ”


“ The last time you were frustrated about a situation probably worked out fine after a while. Your feelings of frustration or irritation probably didn't do much to solve the problem then, which means they're not doing anything for you right now. ”


Strategies - Anger/Aggravation

“ Take several deep breaths. ”


“ Repeat a calming word or phrase in your mind, such as "relax" or "stay calm." ”


“ Slowly count to 10. ”


“ Ask yourself, "How would my favorite leader handle this situation?" ”


“ Avoid tensing up your muscles. As soon as you can, close your eyes and consciously think to unclench your jaw and loosen your muscles. ”


“ Watch for early signs of anger – Only you know the danger signs when anger is building, so learn to recognize them when they begin. Stopping your anger early is key. ”


“ Go do high intensity exercise or sprint Run if you are at home. ”


“ Remember, you can choose how you react in a situation. ”


“ Just because your first instinct is to become angry doesn't mean it's the correct response. ”


“ If you start to get angry, stop what you're doing – Close your eyes, and practice the deep-breathing exercise. This interrupts your angry thoughts, and it helps put you back on a more positive path. ”


“ Picture yourself when you're angry – imagine how you look and behave while you're angry. Would you want to work with someone like that? Probably not. ”


“ Before you craft angry email/text, sleep on. Wait a day or two. Don't let anger control you and affect your work life due to a single text/email or a 5-minute frustrating argument. ”


“ Forgive - Nobody's perfect. Forgive them. ”


Strategies - Worry/Nervousness

“ Don't surround yourself with worry and anxiety – For example, if co-workers gather in the break room to gossip and talk about job cuts, then don't go there and worry with everyone else. ”


“ Worrying tends to lead to more worrying, and that isn't good for anyone. ”


“ Try deep-breathing exercises – This helps slow your breathing and your heart rate. Breathe in slowly for five seconds, then breathe out slowly for five seconds. Focus on your breathing, and nothing else. Do this at least five times. ”


“ Focus on how to improve the situation – If you fear being laid off, and you sit there and worry, that probably won't help you keep your job. Instead, why not brainstorm ways to bring in more business, and show how valuable you are to the company? ”


“ Write down your worries in a worry log – If you find that worries are churning around inside your mind, write them down in a notebook or "worry log," and then schedule a time to deal with them. ”


“ Conduct a proper risk analysis around these worries, and take whatever actions are necessary to mitigate any risks. ”


Strategies - Dislike

“ Be respectful – If you have to work with someone you don't get along with, then it's time to set aside your pride and ego. ”


“ Treat the person with courtesy and respect, as you would treat anyone else. Just because this person behaves in an unprofessional manner, that doesn't mean you should as well. ”


“ Be assertive – If the other person is rude and unprofessional, then firmly explain that you refuse to be treated that way, and calmly leave the situation. Remember, set the example. ”


Strategies - Disappointment/Unhappiness

“ Look at your mindset – Take a moment to realize that things won't always go your way. If they did, life would be a straight road instead of one with hills and valleys, ups and downs, right? And it's the hills and valleys that often make life so interestin ”


“ Adjust your goal – If you're disappointed that you didn't reach a goal, that doesn't mean the goal is no longer reachable. Keep the goal, but make a small change – for example, delay the deadline. ”


“ Record your thoughts – Write down exactly what is making you unhappy. Is it a co-worker? Is it your job? Do you have too much to do? Once you identify the problem, start brainstorming ways to solve it or work around it. ”


“ Remember, you always have the power to change your situation. ”


“ Make a habit to smile as always. – Strange as it may sound, forcing a smile can make you feel happy according to psychological study. ”