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Our journey as a human is much more than deep diving into technical stuffs. As there are tons of technical stuff to learn, we have no time to learn other stuffs. The truth is we have to maintain balance and learn other aspects. They are all made up together to make you a sustainable happier more fulfilling human being as a professional.

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Abstracts  Art Of Critical Thinking  Habits  ProductivityTools  Learning  Disadvantages Of Mind Maps  Alternatives To Mind Maps  Information Unload  Problem Management  Time And Task Managment  Social Media  Relationships  Dissolve Conflicts  Tackling Change  Dealing With Uncertainty  Dealing With Self-Resistance  Mature Adult  People  People To Avoid  Types Of Insurances  Safety  





Abstracts



Acceptance of every reality and courage to overcome it with confidence

Maintain relentless will power daily.

Clear communication

Nurture mental toughness and stop frustrating difficulties. Love difficulties and troubles.

Frequently do self-critique and work on missing qualities.

Stick to good habits daily.

Put learning to practice.

Prove with results.

Focus on what matters most.

Learn from currently successful people on same industry (tip: "interviews with job-title")

Grasp new ideas/new trends/new skills (tip: "beginners course/guide to")

Critical Thinking

Develop the ability to simply do things will train you to better make these big ambiguous life decisions. It will train you to simply start on something without knowing where in the hell it’s going.

Take responsibility for what's happening to your life. Put things to end.

Be radically open-minded and transparent.

Start what you finish. Push through to completion.

Be realistic, and focus on your current realities - things happening right now.

Maintain your own weakness journal (frequent bad decisions,bad habits), single out each, and work to improve it.

Impose self-deadline.

Self-Confidence




Art Of Critical Thinking



Ability to analyze

Ability to communicate

Ability to apply standards

Ability to ask thoughtful questions

Thinking open-mindedly

Ability to assess things and situations

Clarifying unclear things

Cognitive flexibility - the mental ability to switch between thinking about two different concepts, and to think about multiple concepts simultaneously

Ability to conceptualize

Creativity

Curiosity

Ability to make decision

Ability to embrace different perspectives and thought processes

Ability to evaluate things

Ability to explain things clearly

Ability to make rational prediction, think ahead, look ahead, or foresee things before they happen

Ability to identify patterns

Ability to imagine

Ability to seek information in the right places

Ability to interpret

Ability to reason logically

Ability to make sound but necessarily perfect judgement

Ability to make abstract connections

Ability to infer from available information

Objectivity

Ability to or habit of observing things

Ability to present clearly

Ability to solve problems

Questioning arguments

Questioning evidences presented

Ability to reason well

Ability to recognize similarities and differences

Ability to reflect

Skepticism

Ability to synthesize information - process of taking multiple sources and bringing them together into one cohesive idea, while bringing in a new idea or theory.

Ability to synthesize things learnt




Habits



The art of habit sticking - https://youtu.be/0-I1D0aEJ4w?list=PLW3yd6NHmEVrsblcxxkKdr6ZGqunq8VEG

The most important part of a habit is just getting started.

To stick a habit, believe and visualize firmly that you have fully achieved the ultimate result from long sticking to the habit. This acts as a fuel for motivation to ignite the action engine to get started.

Track habits using habit tracker apps if that approach works for you to stick a habit.

Remove triggers that cause you to do bad habits.

Change might not be fast and it isn't always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped

Eat Elephant habit - break down large project into smallest doable chunk

The Golden Rule of Habit Change: You can't extinguish a bad habit, you can only change it.

THE 3-step HABIT LOOP - 1st, a trigger that tells your brain to go into automatic mode and which habit to use. 2nd - a routine. 3rd - a reward, which helps your brain figure out if this particular loop is worth remembering for the future.

Habit 1: Be Proactive, Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind, Habit 3: Put First Things First, Habit 4: Think Win/Win, Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood, Habit 6: Synergize, Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Once you reached a progress or completely accomplished a goal which can be broken at temptation, be strong not to fall back to the square one. Situations apply to indefinite goal (losing weight) and one-off goals (cutting alcohol, quit smoking).

The trick to success is to choose the right habit and bring just enough self-discipline to establish it.

If you have a bad habit, try not to identify yourself like "I'm the kind of person who runs late to everything", instead say like "I used to be the kind of person who ran late to everything". Otherwise you're at risk of accepting your bad habits.




ProductivityTools



Find out a tool to remind you rest 1-2 minute every 30-1hr of working (Sample browser extension: Strict Workflow)

Find out a tool to help you maintain focus (Sample browser extensions: Ad Block, Distraction Free, Feed Blocker)

Find out a tool to help you determine your online time spent across multiple apps (Sample apps: Screen time)

Find out a tool to remind you via multiple channels - email, sms, mobile, browser push notification

Find out a tool to let you note whatever text form in multiple devices.

Find out a tool to plan your future ahead and keep track of things for you.




Learning



Faced with tumultuous economic times and rapid technological change, staying ahead in your career depends on continual learning of what matters most.

Future-proof your career and maximize your competitive advantage by learning the skill necessary to stay relevant, reinvent yourself, and adapt to whatever the workplace throws your way.

Experimenting new good things is a satisfying and more fulfilling way of living life. It is the best way to learn things.

There are always new things to learn. There is no end for self education.

We learn mostly through our own experience than through others' sharing.

When we view the world and communicate with people, we will do it with filters. The filters are the patterns we learnt through experience.

You can consume entire knowledge of the world. But if you don't apply it, it's useless.

Passive learning creates knowledge, Active Practice creates skill.

The quality of human life is driven by intelligence in various aspects of the life. Knowledge is the collection of skills and information a person has acquired through experience. Intelligence is the ability to apply knowledge.

Internet can give you solutions, ways, answers but if you're satisfied simply just with knowing and don't apply it, your time is wasted.

We don't know what we don't know. There are lots of things we are yet to learn. Open yourself. Don't get locked up in a box.

Intelligence/Knowledge/Situations Awareness → Actions → Good luck → Happiness

If there are tons of study materials, quickly research the one that suite you to prevent yourself from procrastinating among which one you should choose to get started.

Lack of Intelligence/Knowledge/Situations Awareness → victimised

Learn in chunks. Avoid long study hours. In each chunk, set a time that you can focus with your most maximum concentration.

Use SQRRR method - survey, question, read, recite, review.

Never go to bed without learning one new thing, your brain will notice: stretch your brain muscles

Learn a variety of new things that are unrelated to what you normally do. Variety is key.. meet new people, learn a new skill, learn to dance, take up drawing, design, etc.

Learn about most common causes of death in your regions and world so that you can use it to plan to protect you and your loved ones from most troubling diseases.

Gamify learning habit through apps like https://habitica.com/

Get to learn something useful for life

When studying boring text heavy books, remember to read them with active dance-like music to make the brain active

Successful people read for a purpose.

Opportunity exists in place where everybody complain.

Learning slowly and inefficiently will lead to your downfall - or even worse, being average.

We live in a fast-paced world. Will you fall behind or take the lead? The choice is yours - learning unlocks the doors to everything we want in life. Accelerating that process makes your life easier and more fulfilled.

Continuous learning is the minimum requirement for success in any field.

Our all-time challenges :• You can't do it all.• You can't read it all.• You can't learn it all

Learning slowly and inefficiently will lead to your downfall - or even worse, being average.

If a concept is already known or mastered, don't waste time spending to learn it again.

Organize information to the best beneficia and accessible way - https://illustrated.dev/secondbrain1

To remain valuable in our economy, therefore, you must master the art of quickly learning complicated things.

Learning isn’t a way of reaching one’s potential but rather a way of developing it.

Deep practice is built on a paradox: struggling in certain targeted ways—operating at the edges of your ability, where you make mistakes—makes you smarter.

Armed with the right information and practice, our knowledge can be grown limitlessly and progressively advanced. The only barrier is choosing the right information in this age of information overload.

The time that leads to mastery is dependent on the intensity of our focus.

Life has lots of interesting things that you will find they never end up learning or they may be worth exploring.

We need to have growth mindset by removing all limiting assumptions learnt each day.

Existing assumptions can deter learning and accepting completely new things which might be more beneficial to current days or at least might matter most to our personal/work life.

Learn latest information first through the use of search filter.

Talent: a natural way of thinking, feeling or behaving

A core principle of learning is Interaction over Consumption. Action over Information. Hack to learn not learn to hack.

Investment: time spent practicing, developing your skills and building your knowledge base

Investment: time spent practicing, developing your skills and building your knowledge base

CliftonStrengths principle: Talent x Investment = Strength.

The pursuit of knowledge in excess of purpose is narcotic.

Always bear beginner's mindset because beginners are always eager to learn more than experts.




Disadvantages Of Mind Maps



If you make a mind map without knowing the goal and target group, most people don't understand what the mind map is about

By not using, color and images and organic lines, the mind maps won’t work for right brain people

No useful integration available with common office software, so mind maps are always standalone.

Longer effort to make and arrange the thoughts

Text limitation




Alternatives To Mind Maps



1) cluster diagramming, as originally conceived by Gabrielle Rico;

2) graphic organising tools, e.g. Fishbone Diagram, Venn Diagram, etc;

3) visual tools designed for graphic facilitation, e.g. from David Sibbet;

4) rich pictures or creative doodles, as conceived by Joy Sikorski, Mike Rohde, Sunni Brown, among many others;

5) rapid viz, as conceived by Kurt Hanks;

6) causal loop diagramming, as practised in systems thinking;

7) matrices often used in business applications, like 2x2 matrix, Nine Block Matrix, etc.




Information Unload



As technology and the internet become an increasingly large part of our lives, their potential to distract us from what really matters grows larger every day.

CyberSec Life → Too much stuffs on various trends A,B,C,...X,Y,Z → Don't learning everything → Focus on your current stuff X → Perfect your X with heavily research publications on X → Move on with another stuff C → Repeat ⟲

Focus on what matters most and things you can apply or find useful in immediate future.

Use Mindmap softwares (like X-Mind) to break down bigger topics and arrange similar key ideas

Use always-online note taking softwares like Confluence that allows you to take notes from both PC and mobiles

Just have to accept and appreciate the fact that tech, engineering, medical fields are constantly evolving. But don't force yourself to know immediately about something published today/last week.

When we're shared a good link, we sometimes ignore it or are too busy to read at this moment. It's always wise to use cloud bookmark manager to reduce information overload.

A good bookmark manager not only saves the copy of the link even if the link is taken down but also lets you search the content of the link.

Increase playback speed in watching video tutorials/conferences to complete in shorter amount of time.

Classify data - https://www.quora.com/What-is-meant-by-nomenclature-What-is-its-utility

Every more than ever, we deal with data and we keep a lot of it.

Data is precious only at its use. Outdated data might be irrelevant and is no longer useful.

Organizing relevant data meaningful to you is most important.

Creating gists of all information learnt is necessary for quick reference as we may not have time to re-read detailed information, pages, blogs, video tutorials again.

Saving copy of all documents/web pages could be time-consuming and there are newer or better information being published every now and then.

Information you stored also be outdated after a while.

Ability to search your stored gists quickly is also favorable in times of needs.

Be open-minded. Verify your assumptions with non-biased facts.

10 Best Productivity Apps in 2019 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3xLFA0xKoM

The PARA Method: A Universal System for Organizing Digital Information - https://fortelabs.co/blog/para

Store information categories no more than four levels deep (using Evernote as an example, the levels would be: application > stacks > notebooks > notes)

Mind-mapping is not to categorize and list down known information. It's to discover new information from your brain. If you have already got information, please use other layout form of information storage.

Choose only information which can be actionable at the point of use within your areas of responsibility.

Information overload exists in every field and every topic nowadays.

It’s no different with information – we’re bombarded with tweets, images, articles and podcasts.But when you spend all your time consuming, when are you going to start creating

In information overloaded era, there are those who have trained themselves to handle these complexities and those who are overwhelmed by them.

In information overloaded era, there are those who can acquire skills and discipline their minds and those who are irrevocably distracted by all the media around them

Categorize scattered data.

Decide what can get the best and most out of each data for next steps. Result is what matters most.

Follow only significant research labs and researchers than following every single person in social media.

Remove the layer of social media/society and focus on your immediate job requirements and learn things that maximize your potentials within your job scope.

Be aware of all communication and information you let in to your mind. Make sure that only useful things are coming in because everything else is distraction.

Information without implementation is simply a waste of time.

The ugly truth is that we can never practice tips, tricks, information, learning materials at the pace and speed of sharing by professional and research communites. If you force yourself, you're simply torturing yourself or walking the wrong direction.

Self-Hunt approach in relevant knowledge acquisition rather than being fed by people who share.

There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important thing. - Brian Tracy

In this era of information abundance, we shouldn't learn something we've already known. Only then we can grow.




Problem Management



Diagnose problems by finding its root causes.

Complaining takes a problem and then prolongs it. It takes this experience that is anywhere from a nuisance to legit painful

Don't own problems or emotions of others unless they're impacting you or needing your help.

Problems may be inevitable, but the meaning of each problem is not.

We get to control what our problems mean based on how we choose to think about them, the standard by which we choose to measure them.

Problems add a sense of meaning and importance to our life.

If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.

Most of us attempt to avoid problems. This tendency is the primary basis of all human mental illness.

Identify outcomes of a problem.

If you’re stuck on a problem, don’t sit there and think about it; just start working on it. Even if you don’t know what you’re doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head.

See problems and difficulties as opportunities not as harsh unpleasant realities.

Never believe that problems can't be solved.

Come up with effective and permanent solutions to your problems.

In a nutshell, what “self-improvement” is really about: prioritizing better values, choosing better things to give a fuck about. Because when you give better fucks, you get better problems. And when you get better problems, you get a better life.

Idealist who are not well-grounded in reality create problems not progress.

Choose what to care about. Focus on the things/problems that are actually meaningful/important

We spend most of our time preparing ourselves for problems that are expected. But it is because of this preparation that, by definition, the most difficult problems we experience in Life will be unexpected.

Solutions are actions and pursuits that resolve a problem preventing it from continuing or happening again in the future.

Distractions are actions or pursuits designed to either make us unaware of the problem’s existence or to dull the pain the problem may be causing.

Irrational Thinking: It's easier to avoid than to face this problem; hopefully it will just go away. EQ Counterpart: In the long run, it's better to face this problem and accept my role in it; only then can there be resolution.

Remember problems no longer exist once you have solutions.

Mistakes, issues, problems, weaknesses, things to improve are evolutionary part of human life, societies and organizations.

Prioritize your problems before you react to them.




Time And Task Managment



Give yourself a deadline for every single task even if you have plenty of time.

Consider 80/20 principle in doing most impactful tasks first.

Avoid todo list. Better way is to track your tasks by deadline. Kill it one by one on time.

Make time for getting big tasks done every day. Plan your daily workload in advance. Single out the relatively few small jobs that absolutely must be done immediately in the morning. Then go directly to the big tasks and pursue them to completion.

There will never be enough time to do everything you have to do. So, stop thinking you don't have enough time.

The first 10 percent of time that you spend planning and organizing your work before you begin will save you as much as 90 percent of the time in getting the job done once you get started. You only have to try this rule once to prove it to yourself.

Why we have a hard time completing even simple tasks and projects, procrastinating again and again and again despite knowing that we’re only making things harder and more stressful on ourselves

Use 2-minute rule - if a task can be done less than 2 minutes, do it immediately.

Use batching rule - group similar tasks and finish them all together.

Use 30-minute or 1hr timer - if a task makes you so involved in it and you have other important things to do at the same time.




Social Media



https://medium.com/accelerated-intelligence/while-everyone-is-distracted-by-social-media-successful-people-double-down-on-a-totally-underrated-5a86701e9a27

Eye-opening fact about social media - https://youtu.be/1IW3y3x6o_g - https://youtu.be/QUr6eN9-NlE

Distraction free browser extensions - https://chrome.google.com/webstore/search/distraction%20free?hl=en

News feed eliminator browser extensions - https://chrome.google.com/webstore/search/news%20feed%20eliminators?hl=en

Social networking sites lights up the same part of the brain that also ignites when taking an addictive substance.

When someone experiences something rewarding, or uses an addictive substance, neurons in the principal dopamine-producing areas in the brain are activated, causing dopamine levels to rise.

When an individual gets a notification, such as a like or mention, the brain receives a rush of dopamine and sends it along reward pathways, causing him or her to feel pleasure. 

Social media provides an endless amount of immediate rewards in the form of attention from others for relatively minimal effort.

Reward centers of the brain are most active when people are talking about themselves. 

Social media use becomes problematic when someone views social networking sites as an important coping mechanism to relieve stress, loneliness, or depression. 

https://www.addictioncenter.com/drugs/social-media-addiction/




Relationships



You need 3Cs - Compatibility, Connection, Chemistry to create long lasting relationship.

Spending time with family, friends and like-minded individuals is not to waste time but to recharge your emotional health.

We are naturally believe that our our way of thinking and doing are better than anyone else. It's wise to use facts and data before forming beliefs/assumptions. Facts and data are not subjective if they are taken from trusted sources.

Focus on options than dwelling on problems and judgments

Deal with single person, single topic, related single help (such as avoid requesting same info from two persons working in same company)

The best form of communication with everyone is being consistantly assertive. They may not always be nice to hear but everyone will thank you.

You can communicate with people who are in the same frequency with you. Even so, such frequencies could be changing over time.

When you're with others, how do you portray yourself? How do you want to be seen?

When you face an argument/problem/challenge, what's your first reaction normally? Do you get defensive? Do you hide or blame others?

You can still maintain relationships with drink colleagues/friends. Find out what other healthy things they're keen. If they're jogging sometimes, you can join with them.




Dissolve Conflicts



Never say "You're wrong". Appreciate the difference in opinion, state your own and state why you think that way

Respond with "Explain to me more" /"I'm curious why you think that way to the person who are verbally attacking you.

Move out of conflict zone by redirecting talks into win-win situation.

Open to opinions of others.

Leave attachment to your ego.

If a person is constantly causing negativities for your life, it's time to consider to remove them from your life despite all your effort reducing those negativities.

Be tactful - knows the right things to say in difficult situations

Avoid "accusing person" such as because of you, this has happened.

Seek first to understand. Verify first what you understand the other person's statements is correct by rephrasing them and asking them to confirm.

Ask first the logic behind the other person's decisions/actions.

A well-known principle of human behavior says that when we ask someone to do us a favor we will be more successful if we provide a reason. People simply like to have reasons for what they do.

Rather than seek to change what people think (difficult), change what they think about instead by directing their attention (easy).

The more choices people face in life, the more likely they are to simply do nothing.

The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.

People around you, constantly under the pull of their emotions, change their ideas by the day or by the hour, depending on their mood. You must never assume that what people say or do in a particular moment is a statement of their permanent desires.

People listen better if they feel that you have understood them. They tend to think that those who understand them are intelligent and sympathetic people whose own opinions may be worth listening to.

The ability to see the situation as the other side sees it, as difficult as it may be, is one of the most important skills a negotiator can possess.

He who has learned to disagree without being disagreeable has discovered the most valuable secret of negotiation.

Persuasion is not about how bright or smooth or forceful you are. It’s about the other party convincing themselves that the solution you want is their own idea.

Playing dumb is a valid negotiating technique

So don’t beat them with logic or brute force. Ask them questions that open paths to your goals.

Use Questions rather than Statement to indicate you're trying to understand the situations.

Appreciate thoughtful disagreement.

Avoid interrupting the other's explanations or communication. Let them finish first. If they keep talking use 2-minutes rule for interruptions.




Tackling Change



Confront change without complaining, communicate thoroughly and collaborate fully.

When facing difficulties and setbacks from change, adapt yourself, positively influence and motivate your colleagues.

Have sense of what future holds, seek new approaches and new ways of thinking

Bring about change to achieve breakthroughs

Whethere you change or not, the world is changing, customers are changing and competitive landscape is changing.

We must face change with respect and humility. Otherwise we will fail to see it, fail to respect it, fail to understand it and fail to catch up with it.

Whether you change yourself or create change, both are best kinds of change.




Dealing With Uncertainty



If you don't know what you’re preparing for, you have to be very generic. Pandemics are always combated by the same basic strategy: surveillance, interruption of infection chains and the ramping up of prevention and treatment capacity.

 If we can learn to accept uncertainty and to have the worldview/mindset, that, “I don’t know what’s going to happen, but I believe that whatever happens is going to be for my greater good”—then you can let go of the future and be in the present.

“Whatever happened in the past, I needed to go through it to be who I am now and to learn a certain lesson, and I couldn’t escape it but now I have learned my lesson and I can be different right now,” then you can let go of your past and be present.




Dealing With Self-Resistance



Doubt does not feel good. Fear does not feel good. Procrastination does not feel good. Struggle does not feel good. They are all forms of resistance.

Anything you resist persists. You don't resist happiness so it doesn't persist. You resist frustration and so it persists.

We resist what we don't like. We resist what we don't want to do.

The key to win self-resistance is to accept. Accept, accept and accept the stuff in your mind.

Once you've managed to accept it, the next step is to convince yourself that it's fun to do the stuff.

Once you've managed to trigger fun, the next step is to convince yourself that you excel at doing the stuff.




Mature Adult



A mature adult is responsible, respectful, considerate, listens, shares, has integrity with their word and is not in the I/ego space at all times.

They will see all sides and come from facts verses stories. They will research and investigate situations to get to the core truth.

There will be a dialogue with others verses a monologue with oneself. They do not gossip nor do they have time for this.

The exceptional person is someone that follows through with their word, listens to others fully and has insight on how to grow and create solutions.




People



Remove existing and new toxic ppl from ur life

Be open and frank, talk less with sarcastic ppl

Work - You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said or happening to you without your control

People text and emails more even if they can communicate in person. That is where misunderstanding is triggered.

Accurate interpretation what they mean and how understand can fasten to achieve your goal of negotiation and presentation

People who you deal with daily can make and break your life.

Surround yourself with people who push you to be the best version of yourself without causing you negative stress.

Closed-minded people don't want their ideas challenged. They're more eager to prove their ideas right rather than learning to understand the other person's perspectives.

Closed-minded people more likely to make statements rather than questions.

Closed-mind people block others from speaking their views.

Closed minded people make you make wrong decisions due to one side look on one perspective.

Understand that people's perception, beliefs, assumptions are wired very differently.




People To Avoid



Those who gossip

Those who complain

Those who talk useless

Those who are negative

Those who don't care on you

Those who don't work hard

Never trust anyone's persuasion that is linked with their financial gains.

Pessimistic, unambitious, or disorganized people

Some making you weaker by mental /emotional ways

Closed minded people




Types Of Insurances



Health insurance

Disability insurance

Critical illness coverage

Life insurance

Personal accident




Safety



Take note of flight type from crash news - https://www.bbc.com/news/business-47523468

Be aware of danger risk in remote locations when travel (Storms, Earthquake)

Dont take medicine in darkness to accidentally eating desiccant

Dont take medicine while sleeping to accidentally put into being choked (death cases reported)

Dont break things which can be sparked into fragments as they can reach into your eye

Have insurance for travel and life for the events of unexpected situations that you can never control

Be aware of safety measure in risky sport activities.

Elderly - Do risk assessments on areas how your elderly family is prone to danger - falling down from stair, infections from helper/stranger, catching cold/flu from, unclean air from nearby household.

Cruise - choose cabin/room at the top with windows to high chance of life in times of sinking as well as to get fresh air in times of virus quarantine - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_Dream#Quarantine_in_Hong_Kong

Don’t walk anywhere alone after dark.

Try to stay away from vacant areas.

Don’t stop to engage with people who try to sell you things.

Make distinctions between people; let yourself know that it’s okay to trust your brain’s highly evolved pattern-matching mechanism when it tells you that someone looks like they’re on drugs, deranged, desperate, or dangerous.